Nothing is more desirable than a person who realizes his mistakes, admits it and apologizes for it. Saying a sincere sorry is probably the hardest thing to do; that’s why a person who can do it is definitely someone with strong and admirable characteristics.
Respect and admiration are probably two qualities you get from your partner when you know how to apologize properly. Not only will your partner fall in love with you more, but your relationship will also change for the better with this simple word—sorry.
When apologizing to the love of your life, you should make sure that the three essential points of an apology are there.
Point 1: Honesty. Your partner will know if you are just apologizing to avoid a fight. Doing this will only make matters worse. Nothing can be accomplished by giving empty words. Sometimes all they want is a genuine apology, and in order to have this, you should be able to identify and fully understand what you did wrong. Remember that both of you made a mistake so don’t say you did nothing wrong. Stay calm and think about why and how you’ve hurt your partner. When you have fully understood this, then apologizing sincerely will not be that difficult.
Point 2: Accountability. Take responsibility and don’t make excuses. It’s not enough that you admit your mistake, but you also have to show that you understand what mistake you did. Your partner will trust you more when they can hold you accountable for the error you’ve committed. Making excuses also show that you don’t fully realize what happened and how you’ve hurt your partner. Explain if you must. Tell them your side of the story and let them know that it’s not an excuse. More often you’ll be the one receiving the apology, not giving it.
And point 3: Promise. Promise them that you’ll be better, and do better. There’s no point in apologizing if you’re just going to do the same mistakes again. Learn from your mistakes. Your partner will be so happy to know that not only did you admit and realize your own mistakes, but that you will also try to be better next time.
Remember that an apology doesn’t kill, and that your relationship can be saved and can stay stronger by having a sincere apology.